The Back Door Of Jackie Chan

To really know what you want out of life can be a terribly complicated thing. Especially when you have a bee hive for a brain like mine. A hundred ideas fly around in my brain and then I also have to function at a full time day job, manage a household with 3 kids and 2 dogs… That’s not a complaint. I love it all, but it is a challenge to distill a couple of doable goals for 2025. In this new year, I want to do stuff! Learn new things… But what and when or how?

I started with a simple question; What would you do for free? Great question… But before you really get to the honest answer, you need to get out the reflex we all have to go after “achievements” or “success”. Also, we need to dismantle a couple of decades of conditioning that is hidden in mild interests and responsibilities. Then our brain tends to overcomplicate things and in my case my brain is brilliant converting every thought into a long to do list, risk management evaluation, financial plan and SMART-analysis.

I found this approach hard work and the thought process was all in my left brain; logical, structured, but also intimidating and impossible to get my bee hive head around.

Then I realised a smarter question was; How would you like to feel more often?

Aah! That’s easy!

I would like to be happy more, laugh more often, be curious more often, to be more grateful, to experience more wonder...

So then, what do I need to do more of?

And what do I need to do less of?

Those answers came so easily and you know? It wasn’t the big stuff that was flying around in my head, like writing a novel, taking that marketing course or building an email list (which the last 2 honestly really freak me out!).

No, it was the small things; getting that cool board game me and my youngest son had our eye on for some time. Sorting out the art that I’d love to paint again and do more of that. Buy new art supplies to experiment with. Seemingly small things, but with a huge impact.

Now it doesn’t feel like I have a long way to reach my goals; I’m already there. Stacking more and more experiences onto one another. Growing, evolving and enjoying the journey.

I’m pretty happy I found this back door around my bee hive and around my own social conditioning. Like the great Jackie Chan says; The best fight is the one you avoid. Smart man.

I hope this will help you find your back door too ;-)

Judith